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Relationship Respect

The amount of respect people have nowadays for relationships, and for couples is deeply disturbing. For some reason our society has taught no relationship code of ethics. Its apparently okay for an ex or other girls to text a guy who clearly has a girlfriend and for guys to clearly text girls who have boyfriends. According to this logic, what does the status of a relationship even mean? It seems there are no boundaries significant enough anymore if a person wants someone. It doesn't matter if there taken, engaged or even married. Is our greed as humans that immense? Whats so frustrating about this is that even when we stand up for our relationships, it can manage to not be enough. So if there is no respect for boundaries, no respect for the two people in the relationship, then what do we do? As a teenager myself I have bared witness to this problem, theirs something about an amazing guy who is yes taken that girls and ex's can't seem to get enough of. My new philosophy is not dealing with the outer problem, but further building the inner relationship. Truth behold no matter what we say to someone, no matter how angry we get or how emotionally upset we feel about it, that won't change a persons actions, it won't change a persons mind, it won't even make them feel conflicted about there actions. What it will do is tear you apart, mentally and physically. It will tear your mind apart due to the negative energy you hold towards the person and wear you down physically from unnecessary stress and emotion. Instead of taking the anger, emotion filled route, build a trust with your partner. As hard as it may be to let go of an outsiders actions, it will strengthen your relationship. You see when the strong trust is built it doesn't matter what someone else does. They may be able to break a house of straw but not a tower of iron that's building stronger and stronger. Let the actions of others prevail as they may, let it go, you cant control it. What you can control is the relationship between you and your significant other, make it significant, make it strong, make it unbreakable. The best weapon is actually no weapon at all. The best weapon is a strong relationship that is unbreakable to the outer sources of  impact. Your relationship will have trials, if it hasn't already they are sure to come, these trials can only be fought if you put your emotions aside and look at the bigger picture. Don't fight, instead surrender, surrender to the perpetrators acts of kindness, a picture of wisdom, and a shield of strength. Through the trials grow as a person, learn how to turn trials to wisdom and grow as a couple, learning not to avoid the trials but to face them head on because as a unit you are strong enough! This won't be easy, in fact you might have to break down and cry a few times but that's okay because your human, it doesn't matter if it takes some tears, what matters is your effort to change and grown and what also matter is that you keep your relationship strong. So let the mistles fly, let the disrespectful people come, I have loaded and ready bubbles of kindness, a picture of wisdom and a shield of strength to protect the relationship in which I hold most dear. By not acting out I'm not being a coward or not standing up for  myself, I'm being stronger and building strength from within for both me and my significant other. I encourage you to take the challenge and do the same <3

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