Self preservation is the preservation or protection of ones self. For humans this is often a trait which we have received as instinct, however if not guarded can develop into not only protecting yourself but doing so at the cost of others happiness, health, or overall well being. In order to protect ourselves we will sometimes go to any length. Some of these lengths include throwing someone else under the bus per say or getting them in trouble instead of us. Another is hurting someone's social image to build our own etc. Acts of self preservation if not used carefully can often harm those around us in a large variety of ways. Tonight though, I'd like to take a different look at this idea of self preservation. As humans, we thrive in a pack, with other people and by being social, we can't do life alone. So with that said and our large aspect of social need in our character... Self preservation should actually be the preservation of others and those around us. Think about it, if socialization is such a large part of our lives having an even larger impact on our lives. Then the impact we have on others directly affects us constantly, day to day, moment to moment. The socialization aspect is like a circle, touching and connecting to others and then eventually sooner or later returning back to us. By positively trying to preserve others, we're not only preserving them but preserving ourselves... Next time your self preservation instinct kicks in, remember the long term effects and change it to, the preservation of others. :)
I feel there is something not talked about enough, everyone knows the feeling of failure. We all make mistakes, comes with being human, we all cope with that. How though do we cope when unplanned mistakes take place, I know your wondering what on earth I mean by this, most mistakes are unplanned… I am referring to the mistakes, the trials that occur even when the “rules” are followed, those that incur even when perhaps we have done everything right that is within in our power. This takes a different type of coping, paired with an even greater understanding and matched with yet a greater perspective. In order to cope and heal from these unplanned mistakes we need to evaluate what was within our control and what was genuinely not. Often times when things go wrong we immediately blame and criticize ourselves because let’s be real, that is much easier than accepting the unknown and accepting the true lack of control we had over the situation. It is facing this fact though that allows for
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