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Fighting the Problem~ Not Each Other

If you haven't noticed already, my focus of topics this week has focused around relationships. Tonight is no exception, we often hear when a couple is fighting, the wise reminder that they are fighting the problem and not each other. This applies to a friendship as well, I feel like we get in fights and we want someone to blame, we don't want to accept were at fault. We want to be in the right even if were in the wrong, so when were fighting with a friend or a special friend, its almost natural to blame them right off the bat. Its easy and almost comforting to put all the blame on them. What does that do though? It doesn't solve the problem, it actually divides the people more and more. If the situation was hard to get over before, well now a larger gap has been created. When there is a problem, and argument, a fight or whatever it may be. We need to have the maturity to say, I realize "I'm at fault", or "I've taken some part in this", because fighting takes two... Then from there we need to have the maturity to realize this person were fighting with is most likely someone we care about as a friend or as more, therefore we need to realize we don't want to fight them, but the problem at hand. If two people can be mature enough to sit down, discuss the issue and figure out how to make it work, then that strengthens the relationship rather then tearing it down with blame. In our day in age we NEED strong relationships. We need people we can count on even when times are rough, so lets all grow up a bit and bring the problems TO EACH-OTHER not AROUND EACH-OTHER. Lets be mature and start fighting the problem, not fighting each other!

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