I'm sure most of you have probably heard of or seen the new TV series "13 Reasons Why." If you haven't then let me give you a basic summary. "13 Reason Why" is about a teenage girl who commits suicide but before she does this she makes 13 tapes on why ,the 13 reasons. Hannah the girl in the story is bullied ,now everyone experiences bullying right so what would drive a person so far to make the decision to take his or her own life? When someone is bullied its not the bullying that drives them that far its the feeling of being alone. You see when someone is going through a hard time but they feel like they have people that understand and have a sort of safe zone than they can get through this. However for some people they get to the point when they feel like they have no one. They feel like no one will understand, no one will listen because who will believe them anyways right? They are scared of being classified as "crazy" or "overly emotional" ,even " hormonal" yes thats a popular one. They get to the point that they can't escape the pain and they feel like the only way to not feel pain is to feel nothing at all... This is what happens in the story of Hannah ,she got to the point that no one should ever have to get to, she felt pain no one should ever have to feel. Now after watching this their have been a few different view points, some say its to dark, others say they make suicide look "appealing". Well here's an entirely different view point altogether, some kids experience bullying that is less extreme than what is portrayed in this TV series, some experience bullying that is equivalent to it and some even experience worse. Whats good about this show you ask? It paints a perfect picture about how peoples actions can affect a person. A jock labels a girl "easy" and makes up some story to make himself seem cool and doesn't even care how that can affect the girl when nothing even happened. You see in the show that happened to Hannah, what was barely one kiss got turned into something that ruined her reputation. I'm not saying that it was these people's fault that she killed herself because its not ,that was her own personal decision. No one can make that decision for a person and no one can actually cause it but what if people actually took a moment to think how there actions affect someones life. How they are actually making a person feel, if the characters in this series would have thought about someone besides themselves maybe it could have been prevented. What people don't realize is how much the what seems like small things to them actually hurt and tear apart the person they do it to.
What I would really like to focus on right now is why not to end things the way Hannah did. Now I'm not a shrink and I'm not going to tell you to start taking anti-depression medication or anything because you don't need medication. You need real people who actually give a damn and don't expect anything in return, people who don't like you for your popularity or what size jeans you wear, people who wont ditch you just because your going through rough time and need some support. Believe it or not I understand that I've been there and I think that if we all just pause for a moment and think about it that in one way or another we have all been there and understand. Everyone's situation might not be the same but we have all felt pressure or we've had a moment that we thought we couldn't take it anymore, whether it was at work or in school ,maybe even just having a rough time at home we've all felt it. For those of us that have felt it we know the way out ,we saw the light at the end of the tunnel and we followed it and I believe its our mission to help those of you out there that haven't found the light yet. So let me be the first or maybe the fiftieth whichever it maybe to tell you that your not alone, and no matter how you feel right now there is so much more to life. There are blessings beyond this rough patch that you have yet to find. Now i know i titled this post "13 Reasons Why...Not." So here's exactly that 13 reasons why NOT!
1. Committing suicide may seem like it hurts you but who it really hurts is those people who love you, can you really fathom hurting them so horribly?
2. This is one patch in your life ,God lets everything happen for a reason and who knows maybe this had to happen, you had to feel this way so you can have the wisdom to help someone else :)
3. God created you and their is only one you, killing yourself,one of his creations is like slapping God in the face saying he messed up somewhere. Let me assure you that God never makes mistakes!
4. If you end things your basically giving up and your "reasons" well they win, why give in when you can overcome? Don't give in to your dark nights, hit them head on with some high beams.
5. You are amazing and smart and you know what for someone that I don't even know I just have a feeling your reading this because hey you need some extra support, we all do but i have an even stronger feeling your going to do amazing things.
6.You are LOVED even if you feel like you have no people in your life that love you right now, I assure you that those people will come but until they do ,you are loved by the God of the universe, honestly what else do you need?
7.Being dead is pretty dang boring, I mean I wouldn't know and I don't intend to find out for a lot of years but just doesn't sound like much fun..
8. You may not know it but just being here you have touched lives of others even just bringing a smile to someones face is touching a life. Think if your not here how many people could be missing that smile they needed, they need you.
9.You have a gift
10.What happens now will only make you stronger in the future.
11.You are noticed, you may not think so but you are.
12. I'm sure you have had some happy moments in life, smiles, hugs etc. You deserve more of those and they will happen :)
13. Your courage to fight through this already inspires me and it will inspire many more people in the future.
I know this was long I just really felt the need to write this, if you read all the way I want to say thanks for reading and if you have any questions ,comments or know someone who could use some extra hope or positive inspiration, comment below i would love to help however i can. Also taking post requests if you or someone you know just needs to hear something specific let me know. Thanks! :)
What I would really like to focus on right now is why not to end things the way Hannah did. Now I'm not a shrink and I'm not going to tell you to start taking anti-depression medication or anything because you don't need medication. You need real people who actually give a damn and don't expect anything in return, people who don't like you for your popularity or what size jeans you wear, people who wont ditch you just because your going through rough time and need some support. Believe it or not I understand that I've been there and I think that if we all just pause for a moment and think about it that in one way or another we have all been there and understand. Everyone's situation might not be the same but we have all felt pressure or we've had a moment that we thought we couldn't take it anymore, whether it was at work or in school ,maybe even just having a rough time at home we've all felt it. For those of us that have felt it we know the way out ,we saw the light at the end of the tunnel and we followed it and I believe its our mission to help those of you out there that haven't found the light yet. So let me be the first or maybe the fiftieth whichever it maybe to tell you that your not alone, and no matter how you feel right now there is so much more to life. There are blessings beyond this rough patch that you have yet to find. Now i know i titled this post "13 Reasons Why...Not." So here's exactly that 13 reasons why NOT!
1. Committing suicide may seem like it hurts you but who it really hurts is those people who love you, can you really fathom hurting them so horribly?
2. This is one patch in your life ,God lets everything happen for a reason and who knows maybe this had to happen, you had to feel this way so you can have the wisdom to help someone else :)
3. God created you and their is only one you, killing yourself,one of his creations is like slapping God in the face saying he messed up somewhere. Let me assure you that God never makes mistakes!
4. If you end things your basically giving up and your "reasons" well they win, why give in when you can overcome? Don't give in to your dark nights, hit them head on with some high beams.
5. You are amazing and smart and you know what for someone that I don't even know I just have a feeling your reading this because hey you need some extra support, we all do but i have an even stronger feeling your going to do amazing things.
6.You are LOVED even if you feel like you have no people in your life that love you right now, I assure you that those people will come but until they do ,you are loved by the God of the universe, honestly what else do you need?
7.Being dead is pretty dang boring, I mean I wouldn't know and I don't intend to find out for a lot of years but just doesn't sound like much fun..
8. You may not know it but just being here you have touched lives of others even just bringing a smile to someones face is touching a life. Think if your not here how many people could be missing that smile they needed, they need you.
9.You have a gift
10.What happens now will only make you stronger in the future.
11.You are noticed, you may not think so but you are.
12. I'm sure you have had some happy moments in life, smiles, hugs etc. You deserve more of those and they will happen :)
13. Your courage to fight through this already inspires me and it will inspire many more people in the future.
I know this was long I just really felt the need to write this, if you read all the way I want to say thanks for reading and if you have any questions ,comments or know someone who could use some extra hope or positive inspiration, comment below i would love to help however i can. Also taking post requests if you or someone you know just needs to hear something specific let me know. Thanks! :)
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