Hey Ya'll,
Tonight I want to touch base on a topic that I've kind of brought up in the past but not specifically in this context. We all have relationships in life whether its with friends, significant others, co-workers, bosses, etc. We all have relationships of some sort in our daily lives and we all want relationships. We want friends to go out with, we want to feel accepted and wanted. We all want to find that one person who truly gets who we are inside and out. Its a fact that as humans we thrive on connection and engagement of a social network with others. What I want to shed a light on tonight is the kind of relationships we look for, and how to know if its truly a healthy relationship to pursue. Of course this can be taken and applied a large variety of ways, depending on the type of relationship, circumstances etc. For the sake of narrowing down that variety, I'd like to stick to the two in which I feel teens encounter most frequently. Those are friendships and relationships with a significant other aka boyfriend/girlfriend.
Friendships can be the most fulfilling thing that a person can put their time into, they give you a connection and allow you to get to know other people. Friendships are the basis of any relationship, something I've noticed a lot however especially over the course of my own life is that not all the friendships we think we have are healthy or mutual. Sometimes relationships are found where its one sided, one person may be there for the other in ways that aren't returned or one person is always putting in the effort to connect whether it be in person or simple phone conversations. Other frienships simply drag a person down, when someone whom you think is your friend never supports you or isn't honest etc, that can not only ruin a friendship but also destroy the person its happening to if it continues. My personal philosophy is, you can and should be a friend to everyone! Everyone deserves to have someone who cares about them and we as God's people are called to be the ones who care and are there when others need us. This doesn't mean however that just because your a friend to someone, that they are a friend to you. Choose friends in your life carefully, trust is so easily lost nowadays and even harder to gain.Choose friends who have your values, who support you, who lift you up and wouldn't dream of bringing you down. Choose friends who you know will lead you back in the right direction when you go astray as I know we all do once in a while. Fill your life with lively people and that will give you more of an open and willing heart to be a friend to the people that maybe wont end up being a friend to you...
As for relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend) date someone who also shares your values, your morals and your beliefs. The toughest position to be in is when you find yourself caring about someone who doesn't have a heart after God. Date someone you can grow with, grow in life, grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Don't settle for less then who the Lord has planned for you, find someone who you can laugh with but who also isn't afraid to see you cry. Find someone who you trust enough to know your wildest dreams and also your most hidden secrets. Find someone who your not worried to be yourself around, people have it in their heads that dating is "stressful", should it be though? If you like someone and are in a relationship, shouldn't you be comfortable with one another to the point that being with that person, talking to them on the phone, going out etc, simply whenever your with them that your actually "stress free"? I think in our hearts we all know not only what we want in a relationship, but also what God wants for us in one and so often were quick to be impatient. Quick to be led astray but remember now, the king of the universe has someone hand picked for each and every one of us, so don't be discouraged, don't rush the keeper of time for there is no time limit for his greatness to occur. Trust in the Lord and reach for the kind of relationship he wants for you, the one that's off the charts, not the one the world says is simply normal. We aren't called to be normal, we're called to be excruciatingly different and that difference is intricately beautiful.
Tonight I want to touch base on a topic that I've kind of brought up in the past but not specifically in this context. We all have relationships in life whether its with friends, significant others, co-workers, bosses, etc. We all have relationships of some sort in our daily lives and we all want relationships. We want friends to go out with, we want to feel accepted and wanted. We all want to find that one person who truly gets who we are inside and out. Its a fact that as humans we thrive on connection and engagement of a social network with others. What I want to shed a light on tonight is the kind of relationships we look for, and how to know if its truly a healthy relationship to pursue. Of course this can be taken and applied a large variety of ways, depending on the type of relationship, circumstances etc. For the sake of narrowing down that variety, I'd like to stick to the two in which I feel teens encounter most frequently. Those are friendships and relationships with a significant other aka boyfriend/girlfriend.
Friendships can be the most fulfilling thing that a person can put their time into, they give you a connection and allow you to get to know other people. Friendships are the basis of any relationship, something I've noticed a lot however especially over the course of my own life is that not all the friendships we think we have are healthy or mutual. Sometimes relationships are found where its one sided, one person may be there for the other in ways that aren't returned or one person is always putting in the effort to connect whether it be in person or simple phone conversations. Other frienships simply drag a person down, when someone whom you think is your friend never supports you or isn't honest etc, that can not only ruin a friendship but also destroy the person its happening to if it continues. My personal philosophy is, you can and should be a friend to everyone! Everyone deserves to have someone who cares about them and we as God's people are called to be the ones who care and are there when others need us. This doesn't mean however that just because your a friend to someone, that they are a friend to you. Choose friends in your life carefully, trust is so easily lost nowadays and even harder to gain.Choose friends who have your values, who support you, who lift you up and wouldn't dream of bringing you down. Choose friends who you know will lead you back in the right direction when you go astray as I know we all do once in a while. Fill your life with lively people and that will give you more of an open and willing heart to be a friend to the people that maybe wont end up being a friend to you...
As for relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend) date someone who also shares your values, your morals and your beliefs. The toughest position to be in is when you find yourself caring about someone who doesn't have a heart after God. Date someone you can grow with, grow in life, grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Don't settle for less then who the Lord has planned for you, find someone who you can laugh with but who also isn't afraid to see you cry. Find someone who you trust enough to know your wildest dreams and also your most hidden secrets. Find someone who your not worried to be yourself around, people have it in their heads that dating is "stressful", should it be though? If you like someone and are in a relationship, shouldn't you be comfortable with one another to the point that being with that person, talking to them on the phone, going out etc, simply whenever your with them that your actually "stress free"? I think in our hearts we all know not only what we want in a relationship, but also what God wants for us in one and so often were quick to be impatient. Quick to be led astray but remember now, the king of the universe has someone hand picked for each and every one of us, so don't be discouraged, don't rush the keeper of time for there is no time limit for his greatness to occur. Trust in the Lord and reach for the kind of relationship he wants for you, the one that's off the charts, not the one the world says is simply normal. We aren't called to be normal, we're called to be excruciatingly different and that difference is intricately beautiful.
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